Ambiversion is the balance between introversion and extroversion. Possessing these two features means dilemmas are bound to happen.

Here are 15 struggles many ambiverts can relate to:

1) You want to make new friends, but you get social anxiety

It’s hard for you to meet new people. You crave for new friends to expand your social sphere, but there’s a problem: You get anxious. As a result, you get awkward and uncomfortable during conversations, so you question if you really need new friends.

2) You frequently zone out in conversations

You get lost in your own thoughts, so you pretend to understand what they’re saying by nodding. At the same time, you try to pick up random words from what they’ve said to acknowledge and continue the conversation.

3) You think too much

You often overthink everything because you live inside your head. You also can’t help but to reassess the things you did or said in the past, thinking if they’re stupid or sensible. You want to make sure that everything you say or do is sort of significant.

4) Every so often, you contemplate if you want to stay in or go out

Sometimes you just want to hang and chill with your friends. But other times you just want to lock yourself up in your room and hibernate.

5) You wish for rain, but you also long for the sun

Your definition of a beautiful weather could be dark clouds and wet streets or clear blue skies and dry roads.

6) You love your friends but there are times when you don’t feel like socializing

Your friends wonder why you’re MIA for a long time, but you show up to them once you’ve isolated yourself long enough that you feel lonely, and once you are in dire need of human interaction.

7) You prefer texts because you hate calls – especially video calls

You can text for hours, but don’t they dare call you because you won’t answer it, unless it’s an emergency, of course.

8) When you're shy to ask for help

Asking for favors may or may not be your strongest suit. However, there are just moments when you’re really lost with something, but you’re too aloof to ask for help, so you try to do it yourself like a strong and independent person.

9) Crowded places can make you feel uncomfortable

The introvert in you gets uneasy when you see places flooded with people (e.g. parties, concerts, festivals), but your inner extrovert allows you to survive what’s coming your way.

10) Small talks are not your thing

You wonder, “How do I even continue this conversation?!” You think of topics and questions to ask, and sometimes you think it’s just not worth it. However, other times, when you get to ask the right questions and you’re able to connect with that person, you just can’t stop talking.

11) Either you’re the life of the party, or you’re nowhere to be found

You can be at the center of it all calling the shots or you’re at your safe places: With the pets or kids (you’re lucky if there’s one) or in the bathroom arranging this ingenious plan called going home

12) You want to arrange a social gathering, but you don’t know how to host one

Throwing a party is the easy part, but the challenge is entertaining your guests. How do you even keep them amused?!

13) You make sure that your friends are going to the party with you before you agree on going

You have to have to know someone when you walk in to a party. Most of the time, you get your motivation and energy from your friends in order for you to get to do something.

14) Your confidence spikes up at random times

Sometimes you feel like you can do anything, and other times your inhibitions just get the best of you.

15) Your friends misunderstand you

Your friends don’t believe you when you tell them you’re shy because you talk a lot. Little did they know that you also keep a lot of things to yourself.

Although it’s frustrating to get the worst of both worlds with ambiversion, it is for a reason that it is dubbed as the “winning personality” since ambiverts adapt well with situations. Ultimately, ambiverts also get the best characteristics introverts and extroverts have.

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