I just wrapped my first week of school, and I'm exhausted. I thought I'd be ready—this being my third time around—but I'm always knocked off my feet. So, for myself and for others, I decided to do what I do best. I made a list of all the things I need to remind myself to get myself through the day.
1. Getting up early is OK.
Your limbs are heavy and cradled in softness. But isn't it a joy to get up with a sunrise? The day begins (like anything worthwhile) with painful brightness because the darkness hides both the bad and the good.
2. Remember how to get your rest.
You are made up of infinities but are not an infinite resource. Your job is to grow and change but even smelted metal needs to cool in order to harden. Do not be afraid to take that plunge.
3. Please don't skip meals.
Money is tight, I know. But spend it wisely on the things that keep you moving. Any marvelous machine needs to fuel and cushioning to ensure it fulfills its purpose.
4. Walk around your new city.
Take ownership of it. You left behind joys and heartbreak for a chance at a new start. Whether you are here for a smattering of days or maybe forever, you belong to them and owe them your best for today.
5. Extend your comfort zone.
Evolution of the body—that expands your mind and range of motion—is slow and full of pain. But the evolution of the heart can be as quick as a kind smile or a shared laugh. Go to where the people are, and you'll find more fulfillment than you can imagine.
6. Keep yourself safe.
You owe nobody more than you can give, and not everyone is worthy of your heart. Keep your eyes open, and do not give chance an opportunity to break you without just cause.
7. Join a church—but maybe not THAT one.
Whether you believe you can share a god or not—find your church. It may be on hallowed ground or a beaten path, but fill it with the people who will love you unconditionally.
8. Write down the nice things people say.
You're too hard on yourself, dearest. You give off light that other will reflect back to you. It's not a sin to allow them to warm you.
9. Remember the nice things you need to say.
Maybe it's hard for you to be kind to yourself. Then give to others as they might be feeling cold and alone.
10. You're not a child anymore.
You are no longer owed a parent's protection—even if you never had it to begin with. You have rights and privileges, but you have a duty to make sure they are carried out properly. You have been given gifts not to profit yourself but to bless others.
11. You'll feel like a child for a long time.
You'll bumble along for a long time yet. You'll get a lot of things wrong and more things right in the long run. People are cheering for you. I know I am.
12. Remember your people.
Whether you know them consciously or not, you come from a long line of immortals. They live in your bones and bloodstreams.
Then you have the people who have loved you along the way here. They live in your words and gestures.
Do them both justice.
13. Take a deep breath.
It's time to begin again.