1. You can have more than one great love.
Contrary to Charlotte York’s "two great loves" rule from "Sex and the City," Taylor Swift has shown us that the loves we have in a lifetime may be infinite. And this isn’t a bad thing. If things aren’t right, they aren’t right. We can’t force love or make it feel perfect.
Lyric in mind: "Nothing lasts forever, but this is getting good now." (Wildest Dreams)
2. Daydreaming is okay.
Maybe your life isn’t perfect. More understandably, your love life may not be perfect. The song “Stay Stay Stay” is actually just a daydream Taylor had about a perfect relationship. So, if you and BAE are having some problems, relax and daydream that it’s perfect for a second (preferably while listening to this song)
Lyric in mind: “All those times that you didn’t leave it's been occurring to me I’d like to hang out with you for my whole life” (Stay Stay Stay)
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3. Time goes by really fast.
Do you remember being a little kid and playing with your
siblings? Maybe it was Barbie with your sister or a dance party in the kitchen
with your cousins. Those memories are quickly fleeting and we're growing up
faster than we ever imagined we would.
Lyric in mind: “I just realized everything I had
is someday gonna be gone” (Never Grow Up)
4. You’ll ruin your life trying to fix everything.
Stop chasing problems, and let it be. We hear it often, but
everything happens for a reason. Embrace the present, and don’t let your
problems ruin you.
Lyric in mind: “He said look at you worrying too
much about things you can’t change, you’ll spend your whole life singing the
blues if you keep thinking that way” (Starlight)
5. There’s a point when you have to stop picking up.
This is about the person that walks all over you. Better
yet, the person you LET walk all over you. In her heartbreaking ode to John
Mayer, Tay reminds us that we don’t have to keep these people around. If they
make you feel more bad than good, get rid of them.
6. My mom is my best friend.
“The Best Day” is a song that makes me and my mother cry
equally. Whenever I listen to it, I think of the bond a mother and daughter
share, and I think about how lucky I am to know this bond. Moms are our very
own superheros and should be treated as such, even during our teenage moody
days.
Lyric in mind: “And I love you for giving me
your eyes, staying back and watching me shine” (The Best Day)
7. You know literally nothing at 15 (and the rest of your
teenage years).
At 15, I actually thought I would marry the guy I was
“talking to.” Five years later, and much much wiser, I laugh at my 15-year-old
self because of how naive I was. At 15, we don’t see the bigger picture, and
it’s important to remember the bright future of opportunity ahead of us.
Lyric in mind: “Back then I swore I was gonna
marry him someday, but I realized some bigger dreams of mine” (Fifteen).
8. Other people can ruin your relationship, but you can’t let them.
Tay calls them “vultures,” but it is inevitable that outside
forces will influence your relationship. It’s always important to stay grounded
and remember the meaning of your relationship and why you’re in it.
9. Memories will actually fade.
At the end of a bad relationship, you always remember the
good things, and it’s sometimes heartbreaking. You think you’ll never forget
this person, and sometimes you don’t. But most of those memories will fade, and
life goes on just as it was.
10. SPEAK UP when things aren’t going your way.
Don’t be the quiet girl in the corner that doesn’t let
people know what she’s feeling. Whether the guy you love is about to marry the
wrong person or you got stuck with the sh*tty room in your house, always let your voice be heard.
Lyric in mind: “I am not the kind of girl who
should be rudely barging in on your white veil occasion, but you are not the
kind of boy who should be marrying the wrong girl” (Speak Now)
11. Don’t give an ex the time of day.
This is the ex that crosses your mind sometimes.
The ex that things ended badly with every time you tried to make it work
again ... and again. Don’t call, don’t text, don’t Insta stalk me … we are never
getting back together, like ever.
Lyric in mind: "We are never, ever, ever getting back together" (We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together)
12. You can’t turn someone into the person you want them to be.
The age-old tale: girl meets boy, girl likes idea of boy,
but wants to change certain things about him. It doesn’t work this way, and
this will probably blow up in your face if you try to change someone according
to your taste. We can't make the bad boys good, even though we’ve all tried.
Lyric in mind: “And he’s long gone when he’s
next to me, and I realize the blame is on me.” (I Knew You Were Trouble)
13. No matter how bad a day you’re having, every problem can
be “shaken off” for 3 minutes and 39 seconds.
Always remember, the haters are always gonna hate and the
players will never stop playing you. Fortunately, Tay teaches us to shake off
the bad vibes and focus on the good. So if you haven’t blasted “Shake It Off”
after a bad day, you’re dealing with your problems the wrong way.
