1. Be genuine about asking.

If you’re really interested in her, ask her on a date in person. Definitely don’t text her to ask, and only call her to ask if you know for sure you won’t see her otherwise. Asking her in person is the most respectful way to ask, and shows that you’re brave enough to say that you’re interested. And don’t call it “hanging out” or “meeting up.” If it’s a date, it’s a date. Be clear in your intentions.

2. Dress nice for the date.

The idea of “dressing nice” can mean different things for different people. Overall, this just means put a little effort into your appearance. It is a thoughtful gesture that will be appreciated.

3. Pick her up at the door.

Don’t sent the “I’m here” text, and don’t just blow your horn as a sign that you’re ready to go. Take the 30 seconds to walk to the door to meet her. Be a gentleman.

4. Deal with meeting her parents/roommates.

If she still lives at home or if she lives with roommates, there’s a high chance that you’re going to be greeted by one of them when you come to the door. This can be totally awkward at times, but tough it out. Be polite and introduce yourself. It will mean a lot to her if you show interest in meeting those she cares about.

5. Bring a small gift.

This does NOT mean you have to go all out. It’s a first date. You can go with the so popular bouquet of flowers, or you can do something simple like her favorite candy. This is just a little gesture to let her know you put thought into the date and want her to feel special.

6. Compliment her.

Girls will put wayyyyy more thought into getting ready for a date than you think they would. If one thing doesn’t feel right when they’re getting ready, it will drive them crazy. Compliments will go a long way. Like her outfit? Tell her. Think she has beautiful eyes? Say it. Love her laugh? Let her know. Dates can be nerve-racking as it is, the compliments will help lift her mood.

7. Hold the door open.

Whether it’s the car door or any other door, this is a polite gesture. Just a simple way you can prove that chivalry is not dead.

8. Put away your phone.

We live in a generation where we are super attached to our phone. Our whole life tends to revolve around it. However, PLEASE make note to detach from your phone during the date. If you spend too much time on your phone, she will think you are uninterested in her. You took the time to ask her on this date, so take the time to pay attention to each other.

9. Take it slow.

There is no time limit on what has to happen on a date. Find a pace that is comfortable for each of you. Value each other’s heart and feelings. If it’s meant to be, everything will happen in its perfect time.

10. Walk her to the door after the date.

This gesture shows that you want her taken care of, and that you care she makes it home safe. Again, another easy gesture as a gentleman.

11. Ask permission.

Different girls will be comfortable with different actions when it comes to being on a date. When it comes to putting your arm around her, holding her hand, or kissing her, ask permission first. Sometimes the two of you may be caught up in the moment during the date. By asking permission, you can avoid any situations that may have been caused by a misunderstanding. This also allows both of you to remain comfortable through the duration of the date.

12. Call and thank her.

Again, do not text this. She took time out of her schedule to go out with you upon request, so make sure you thank her.

13. Be clear on where you stand with each other.

After thanking her for going on the date, it is important to talk about how you feel the date went. Was it enjoyable enough that you would like a second date? Did you say or do anything that she was uncomfortable with? Did you feel a connection with her? Talk it out so that you both know how the other feels.