"Oh my god, I'm basically your mom," is a common term in my vernacular. I'm friends with lots of underclassmen, and it naturally makes my love for them feel beyond friendship and more like a familial bond. I love my friends beyond words, so here are some common signs that you might be the mom of your friends too:
1. You're always giving advice to people...
My friends are precious, and I'm so thankful that they come to me when they need someone to vent to, yell to, or seek advice from. I try and give the most poignant words I can, but....
2. Even if you have no idea how you'd handle the situation if you were in it.
Half the time, I have no clue what advice I would give myself in the situation. Sometimes I don't have a good or right answer for what to do, but I hope I can tell people what they need and want to hear.
3. You're basically an Uber driver from the amount of rides you give.
Many of my younger friends can't drive yet, so it lands on me to give rides. I don't mind driving, I actually love being able to listen to music and talk with people for as long as possible, but I could start charging a rate for the amount I drive people around every week.
4. You call your younger friends "my children" or "my son/daughter."
The amount of times this has happened to me is a little bit ridiculous. With the one exception, where I call my friend dad (love you, Luce), I'm always calling my underclassmen friends my children. It just sort of happens, and the pet names tend to stick. However, all of my friends are like my family.
5. Everyone comes to you to tell you things the second they happen.
I pretty much know about things the second that they happen. Whether I get a Snapchat, call, or iMessage, I'm the call center for whatever occurs, major or not.
6. You're fiercely protective of your friends.
I'm definitely a lover not a fighter. I avoid confrontation and cry when I get mad, but the second I hear about anyone slighting my friends, I tend to get a little Hulk-tastic. The thought of any of my friends getting less than what they deserve, or getting hurt, makes me beyond irritated, and I'll be the first person to threaten to fight someone when the situation occurs. (I'm only 5'4 so I doubt I could really take anyone in a fight, but its the thought that counts!)
7. You're the first one there to make people feel better when they're sad.
I hate when people are sad. For real, it's one of my least favorite things in the entire world. I'm always trying to make sure my friends are okay, and I'm the one who will be there with food and small tokens to cheer you up.
8. No matter how great your friends are, you still know when to call them out.
Trust me, I love my friends very much. That being said, I still know when they're doing things I don't agree with. I'll stand behind my friends through thick or thin, but I can still tell them when and if they're making disagreeable choices.
9. You have a hard time saying "no."
I hate saying no to people. You need a ride at a ridiculous time of day? Sure. You want me to stalk someone's Instagram account? I'm on it. Within reason, I don't typically say no to my friends if they need something.
10. You're always showering your friends with affection and telling them how much you love them.
When I hang up phone calls, I always tell my friends I love them. I sign cards, "love always." I always want the people in my life to know how much I adore them, and have no problem telling them this every chance I get.
11. Sometimes your friends can drive you nuts, and you don't always agree with what they do...
My friends and I are different people, for better or worse, and sometimes we drive each other nuts. Just because you love someone, that doesn't mean you have to support every little thing they do.
12. But no matter what, you're so proud to know them and be friends with them.
My friends are amazingly talented, kind, and wonderful people. I love to support my friends, and I'm pretty much the proudest person in the room. Three of my favorite people made the Varsity basketball team? I went to pretty much all of the games (always your basketball mom, boys!). I cheer for my friends when they get on Honor Roll. My friends do so many amazing things every day, and I'm so proud to know and love them.