11 Things You Know When Your Boyfriend Graduates Before You | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Relationships

11 Things You Know When Your Boyfriend Graduates Before You

I just want to be together already.

8089
11 Things You Know When Your Boyfriend Graduates Before You

Even the most perfect relationships face some turmoil when there is distance involved. In both high school and college, life and love can become at the very least drastically different when your significant other graduates before you do. Whether they are going to a school that's far from you or taking a job somewhere else, its hard to go from being with them every day to dating via texting and FaceTime. Being the younger one in the relationship leads to all sorts of things.

1. People constantly say "long distance will never work!"

Thanks for your input Sharon, but I didn't ask. Long distance may not work perfectly with two people who just met over Tinder, but it has a much better chance of working when your relationship is already built on a firm foundation. Your partner graduating before you is just an, albeit tough, stepping stone in your life.

2. You may want to follow them wherever they are.

When your boyfriend graduates and goes away to college or leaves to his new job, its totally normal (and healthy) to look for schools and jobs in that area as well. As long as you know he is somebody worth following, it isn't a crime to want to be close to them.

3. ...And people have something to say about that, too.

Following a boyfriend somewhere gets a bad wrap because people think that it is a sign of co-dependence on them, or that you are letting their choices dictate your life. But spouses move where spouses go, employees move where jobs go... People let other things dictate their life. People move to be where what is important to them is. I'll say it again, as long as you know he is somebody worth following, it isn't a crime to want to be close to them.

4. Getting used to extensive time apart is tough.

Seeing each other daily and then only seeing each other a few times a month or year is a huge adjustment, but just another hurdle to jump when you're a few years apart.

5. Phone calls get much longer.

When your only form of communication is virtual, hearing each other's voice for as long as possible is necessary.

6. As much as you wish they'd stay, you're so proud of them.

It sucks to watch the love of your life graduate and move on to a life that is going to be sans you for a little while. Knowing they're excited to start their next chapter even when it doesn't involve seeing you every single day can hurt. But knowing that they've completed such an important and impressive milestone in their life makes you so proud that its okay.

7. You realize distance does make the heart grow fonder.

A combination of loving them and missing them makes your feelings for them a little bit stronger.

8. You find yourself wanting to grow up a little faster.

While other people are still excited for prom or going out to the bars or things people your age do, you are getting excited about starting your career and your life.

9. You may feel bad for holding them back.

You may feel like you're holding your partner back when they're in college and you're back in high school, or when they're going to their adult, full-time job and you're still stumbling around the streets in your college town. That's normal. Just remember that your age is one thing you can't control and you can work past it.

10. You can't wait for your own graduation.

While you may love college or high school, knowing that that diploma is the first step to being back with the love of your life makes you want it to hurry up.

11. You know that no matter what, you'll end up together.

When you know, you know. And whether you have many years before you're ready to settle down together, or you just have one year of separation left, knowing somebody is "the one" is a feeling that can't be described. So if you're stuck pre-graduation and waiting to be with your "one" again, know its possible and that one day, despite the hardships and naysayers, you'll make it work and you'll both be graduated and together again.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Taylor Swift in orange dress playing a moss-covered piano on stage with bright lights.

A three-and-a-half-hour runtime. Nine Eras. Eleven outfit changes. Three surprise songs. Zero breaks. One unforgettable evening. In the past century, no other performer has put on an electric performance quite like Taylor Swift, surpassing her fans ‘wildest dreams’. It is the reason supporters keep coming back to her shows each year. Days later, I’m still in awe of the spectacle ‘Miss Americana’ puts on every few days in a new city. And, like one of Taylor’s exes, has me smiling as I reminisce about the memories of the night we spent together.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

A Few Thoughts Every College Freshman Has

The transition into adulthood is never easy

23789
Mays Island
Courtney Jones

Today I started my third week of college at Minnesota State Moorhead. I have survived welcome week, finding my classes on the first day, and being an awkward loner in the dining hall. Even though I have yet to be here for a month, I have already experienced many thoughts and problems that only a new college student can relate to.

Keep Reading...Show less
Students walking on a sunny college campus with trees and buildings.

"Make sure to get involved when you're in college!"

We've all heard some variation of this phrase, whether it came from parents, other family members, friends, RAs, or college-related articles. And, like many clichés, it's true for the most part. Getting involved during your college years can help you make friends, build your resume, and feel connected to your campus. However, these commitments can get stressful if you're dealing with personal issues, need to work, or aren't sure how to balance classes and everything else going on during the semester.

Keep Reading...Show less
Relationships

9 Reasons Why Friends Are Essential In College

College without friends is like peanut butter without jelly.

9936
Bridgaline Liberati and friends
Bridgaline Liberati

In college, one of the essential things to have is friends. Yes, textbooks, a laptop, and other school supplies are important but friends are essential. Friends are that support system everybody needs. The more friends you have the better the support system you have. But you also have someone to share experiences with. And don’t settle for just one or two friends because 8 out of 10 times they are busy and you are studying all alone. Or they have other friend groups that do not include you. Don’t settle for just one or two friends; make as many friends as you can. After the first couple of weeks of college, most friend groups are set and you may be without friends.

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

The Power of Dressing Up

Why it pays to leave the hoodie at home.

7197
sneakers and heels
Sister | Brother Style - Word Press

For a moment your world is spinning. The phone alarm has just scared you awake and you’re flooded by daunting thoughts of the day ahead. You have three assignments due and little time to work on them because of your job. You’re running late because you’ve hit snooze one to many times after yesterday’s long hours. You dizzily reach for a hoodie, craving its comfort, and rush for a speedy exit, praying you will have time to pick up coffee. Does this sound familiar?

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments