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12 Things I Learned Loving a Man Who Has Never Dated Anybody Before Me

It's kind of weird, but the best kind of weird.

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All relationships are different. I've never claimed to know everything about how to make relationships work, because I don't. I'm never going to be finished learning about relationships. No one will ever finish. I've never loved anyone like I do Daniel. He's not only my best friend, he's my partner. He makes me feel equal to him and I will forever thank him for what he's taught me. Talking to him, you may not have ever guessed that he'd never really dated. He's funny, smart, adorable, and he was my best friend before I even thought about being with him. Thanks to him I learned a lot about how to learn and teach to love.

1.Communication is tough

He doesn't know how to effectively communicate his feelings or what to do when you try to effectively communicate your feelings. Prepare yourself for a lot of "stupid" fights.

2. His mom loves you

She's so happy he finally found someone that takes him off her hands. She texts you all the time to make sure he's alive and she tries to get you to reinforce everything she's been telling him for his whole life. She constantly asks you why you love him and simultaneously thanks you for putting up with him.

3. All of his friends (and family) will be surprised

"Really? You're dating him?" Umm, ya. I love him. "Like dating, dating?" Yes.

4. He takes every opportunity to say "I love you."

He's so scared of losing you. He's really surprised that after asking a billion times, he got a 'yes' and doesn't want to give that up for anything.

5. You both have to learn/relearn how to fight

This goes with all relationships, really. All relationships are different!. Never being in a committed relationship before means not understanding what "fighting fair" means let alone how to do it.

6. Planning is frustrating

You have ideas of how your relationship will be, and he will have his own. Whether it's how much time you get with your respective friends or how many times you spend time alone that week, planning takes a lot of effort.

7. He smiles at you for no reason

He's so surprised that you love him and he's incredibly in love with you. He thinks you're incredible.

8. Your parents are still not impressed

You've dated a bunch of people, why should this one be any different? - Parents just don't get why you are so special to each other.

9. It's a little awkward thinking about your future together

If you get married, he will have never loved another woman. "What if he wants more experience?" Questions like this often form.

10. He has no idea what to do when you cry

He learns after a while, but the first few times are rough. From awkward pats on the back to stammering over what words to use, he has no idea what you want or need from him.

11. Sleeping is weird

He doesn't know how to sleep with someone else. He kicks you out of bed. He accidentally punches your face and thinks a stranger is in his room.

12. He is always really excited to see/kiss/touch you

He has a giant toothy smile because it's the first time he's felt romantically comfortable with another person and he loves it so much.

After everything, I'm so thankful for him. I love him so much. He makes me feel wanted and doesn't think he'll ever let me go.

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