Are you tired of being unhappy? Have you reached the point of feeling helpless? Think: how can I be a happy person and a good person at the same time?
1. Self Acceptance
- Do I love myself?
- Do I put myself down?
- How do I treat myself?
- Do I respect myself?
- Do I accept other people's definitions of myself?
- Do I let other people influence how I feel about myself?
- What is my image?
2. Devotion & Commitment
- Am I willing to make a change?
- Can I assume responsibility?
- Can I recognized what should be changed?
- Am I willing to recognize faults/ behaviors that do not benefit myself?
3. Faith
- Have I devoted my life to Christ?
- What is my relationship with God?
- Do I accept that things happen the way that God intends for it to happen?
- What would Jesus do?
- How do I act as an image of God? (Do I act as an image of God?)
- Have I eliminated sinful behaviors that draw me away from Christ?
- Do I spend time in prayer/ devotion?
4. Positive Thinking
- Are my thoughts based on facts?
- Do my thoughts enhance my recovery?
- Do my thoughts help me to reach my goals?
- Do my thoughts help me to feel as I want to feel?
- Do my thoughts protect my life?
- Are my thoughts kind/ necessary?
- Are my thoughts: negative, distorted, catastrophic, unyielding, dooming, overgeneralized, exaggerated or absolute?
- Am I eliminating the "buts," "hows" and "what if's"?
5. Health (Mentally, Physically, Emotionally, Socially)
- How do I feel on a regular basis?
- How do I react to my feelings?
- Can I recognize what I am feeling?
- All feelings are valid.
- What can I do to change this feeling?
- What do I have control over?
- Am I worried too much?
- Is my weight under control?
- What are my eating behaviors/ habits?
- Do I exercise on a weekly basis?
- Do I allow my emotions to take control?
- Are my emotions contagious?
- Am I taking my medications regularly?
- Do I let one type of health have influence on another?
- How do my behaviors impact my health?
- Do I seek the help that I need?
- How do I release my emotions?
- Have I identified everything abnormal about my health?
- What am I doing to my body?
-Am I stressed?
a. Am I a worry wart?
b. Do I panic about irrational things?
c. Am I overworked?
d. Do I take time off at least once a day to relax?
e. Do I make enough time for myself?
- Hygiene
a. Did I brush my teeth today?
b. How long have I been wearing these clothes?
c. When was the last time I washed my hair?
d. Am I wearing deodorant?
e. When was the last time I took a shower/ bath?
f. When did I last shave?
g. When did I last see a dentist?
h. When did I last take out my contacts?
i. Did I wash my face today?
6. Coping Skills
- How do I cope?
- Are my coping skills healthy?
* Healthy coping skills: journaling, playing an instrument, confronting a trusted friend/ adult, creating something, reading, arts, making lists of positive things
* Unhealthy coping skills: cutting, self harm, violence, venting to social media, eating, over sleeping, drinking/ drug use
7. Purity, Goodness, and Respect
- Are my behaviors appropriate?
- Would I want someone to act this way towards me?
- Would I act this way in front of someone I respected?
- Would I say this to God?
- Am I acting as an image of God?
- Am I letting sin/ temptations get the best of me?
- Are my words censored?
- Am I respectful to authority figures?
8. Organization
- Am I organized?
- Is everything in its place?
- Does everything have a designated place?
- Are my thoughts organized?
- Am I procrastinating?
- Is anything hanging over my shoulders?
9. Social Skills/ Relationships
- Am I an introvert?
- How many close friends do I have?
- Do I keep myself isolated?
- Do I express interests in my friends' hobbies?
- Am I a good listener?
- Do I engage in gossip?
- Do I keep my promises?
- Do I engage in social activities?
- Obsession does not equal love.
- Am I in a healthy relationship?
- Do I respect their space? Do they respect mine?
- Is my happiness based on one person?
- Do I love them because I need them, or do I need them because I love them?
- Can I find happiness outside of this relationship?
- Do I bring my problems upon other people?
- Am I manipulative?
- Is there mutual respect?
10. Peer Pressure/ Independence
- Am I easily influenced?
- Can I "just say no"?
- Do I spread rumors?
- Do I try to fit in with the crowd?
11. Self Control
- Do I have control over what I say/ do?
- Do I think before I act?
- Do I expose too much of my personal life?
- Do I have the power to control my behavior?
- Can I keep my personal issues off of the internet?
12. It's the Little Things in Life...
- Enjoy the little things in life
- Smile
- Laugh
