Dating is a glorious experience when you find the right person. There's nothing like being with someone that makes you feel special. But are you holding up your end of the deal? Every couple has issues for sure. However, while you may love pointing the blame at someone else, you might be the one ruining your own relationships.
1. You're spending too much time worrying about what the other person is doing
In a relationship, there needs to be a little bit of space between the two people. It is good for couples to have space away from the other person when needed. Too many people stress over "Where are you? What are you doing? Are you with someone?" I don't know about you, but it gets exhausting worrying about what your partner is doing all the time. If you don't trust the other person enough to be apart for a few hours or so, then that's probably a sign that you need to work some issues out.
2. You're over analyzing every person they text, Snapchat and Direct Message
It is completely understandable to look at your man's phone and ask "Um, who is this girl on your phone?" Sometimes, it is better to be in the know than to be naive. However, if you have to lean over his phone every time he gets a notification to make sure it isn't that girl he met at the bar a month ago, then you either need to come to peace with him talking to other people that aren't you or tell him you're not okay with it. Also, this may be a good time to establish if you're exclusive or not.
3. You go through your significant other's phone
This is usually never a good idea. Plain and simple. If you think there's something fishy going on then you need to confront him. Going through someone's phone means you don't trust the other person and it also means you think he would be unfaithful to you. Why be with him if you think he would still keep nudes from someone else?
4. You bring up past relationships frequently or continue to talk to ex-partners
There is a time and place for the "ex-talk" but it isn't an everyday thing. It is recommended in new relationships to discuss past relationships, especially past sexual partners (I don't know about you but I do not want an STI). However, if you've already talked about the past, why keep bringing it up? No one wants to hear her partner say that his ex did this or his ex did that. Let it go, dude. Also, if you have a new partner, why the hell are you still talking to that person you dated five months ago? Let that go, too.
5. You obsess over being left on "read" when texting
Have you ever read a text message and then had to go do something really quick? Have you ever read a text message and then didn't know what to say in return? Exactly. Things happen. Sometimes the other person just needs a little extra time to get the perfect reply back to you. Don't stress out over him reading a text and not getting right back to you (unless you said "I love you" for the first time, then you should stress).
6. You only focus on the issues instead of focusing on the good things
Bad things happen and good things happen: that's how life works. Relationships may not be all sunshine and rainbows but they also aren't all tears and rainy days. Instead of always focusing on the crappy things your partner has done, why not relax for a minute and think about the time he brought you flowers or a 20 piece nugget meal. You have other s**t to worry about.
7. You always have to be right
No one is always right. There is no way that you could possible always know the answer to everything -- just chill out. Don't correct your partner every time he messes up; no one likes to be told they're wrong. Yes, sometimes people need to be told that they're wrong. No, you do not need to point out every single time your significant other is wrong.
8. You don't put your significant other first
This is huge. Your babe should come before your coworkers, your friends, the person you hooked up with a few months ago and just about everyone else. Things like school, family, faith, etc. are the only things that should come before your person. Don't make your significant other feel like your friends are more important and don't make him feel like you would rather be with anyone else.
9. You never let sh*t go
Sometimes, you just have to let things go. If you hold onto every little thing that gets on your nerves, you're going to be so unhappy. Yes, some things that happen may be too big to forget but that doesn't mean you need to continue dwelling on it. Holding grudges isn't healthy for you or your relationship; it just makes you bitter.
10. You cancel on plans at least once a week
It is understandable if every once in a while work runs late or your car craps out, but to cancel on your partner every week is a no-no. Canceling constantly makes the other person feel like you just don't want to spend time with them or be with them. If that's the case, then you need to just go ahead and end the relationship.
11. You make your partner feel as though you have lost interest in him
If your girl does her hair and puts on something cute, compliment her. If your girl is wearing sweats and looks like a mess, tell her she looks good anyways. If your man looks fresh, TELL HIM. If your man looks like he hasn't showered in days, tell him he has nice eyes. Tell your partner you appreciate him and you value him. Don't ever let your partner feel like you just don't want this anymore. This tends to happen more in long term relationships especially. It can change someone's entire day when you give him a compliment. Don't make you partner feel like that other girl is prettier or that other guy is hotter. Never make your partner think you don't care about all the things he does for you. Gratitude and appreciation is a major key.
