For many incoming freshmen, college means growth, freedom, and fun. Graduating seniors wear their school's t-shirts boastfully, proof their futures will be filled with adventure. To some, the idea of being surrounded by a sea of strangers can be intimidating. Here are a few things I learned during my first year of college.
1. Your first semester might be lonely.
Hate to break it to you, but making fast friends is rare. You'll have the people from your orientation group and a few friendly faces in class, but it might take awhile before you have a tight-knit group of friends. Don't worry--you'll make friends eventually.
2. Your high school friends are having a blast without you.
And that's okay! With new places, classes, and people, everyone is trying to adjust to a life outside of high school. You might fall out of touch with a few of them, but your closest friends will stick around. It might be hard to see them having a great time with their new friends, but like you, they're figuring things out the ropes. Be supportive and let them know you're always there if they need you.
3. Your loved ones are always there for you.
In the past few months, I've called my parents more than I did in my entire high school career. Whether I was asking for their grocery shopping tips or telling them about the annoying kid in my 8am, I knew they were available for anything. So if you're going away for school or staying at home, don't be afraid to turn to those who care about you.
4. Skipping class is okay...
This one took me a semester to figure out, but there are some classes that just aren't as important as others. If you aren't feeling well or you need a break, it's okay to miss a few lectures as long as you keep up with your assignments.
5. But only in moderation
So maybe signing up for a morning class was my mistake, but once the end of the semester rolls around and you realize you have no idea what's going on, you're going to wonder whether sleeping in was really worth it. It's important to take care of yourself, but don't lose sight of your academics.
6. It's okay to not know what you're doing.
And this applies to both your general college experience & your future. For a lot of people, this is their first time out of the house. Just like you, they're trying to figure out what's going on, no matter how well they hide it. (And not knowing what you're doing is a great ice breaker!)
As for your career path, 50-70% of students will change their major at least once. Although your heart may have been set on becoming a doctor, maybe all those anatomy classes just aren't for you. College is a time to discover more about yourself, and that includes what you're interested in pursuing. Don't be afraid to try new things, because you may find something new you're passionate about.
7. Loft beds are the worst.
On a lighter but equally serious note, don't loft your bed. It might save space and make your room Pinterest material, but you won't think it's such a good idea after you've stayed up til 3 to write a paper and have to climb a mountain to get in bed. Don't do it.
8. Get to know the kitchen staff.
This may be different at larger schools, but I know I see the same faces all the time. Don't be a stranger to the cooks and cashiers in the cafeteria--they're the ones who make sure you're fed every single day. Ask them how their day is and let them know you're grateful.
9. Take advantage of the resources available to you.
I know they can be annoying, but don't delete every email the school sends you. They're full of information on campus events, internships, study abroad, and more. With the help of centers on campus, I'm already networking for my career & on track to study in England next year. Don't let their help go to waste!
10. Explore the area around your campus.
You're here for learning and meeting new people, but there's plenty to do off campus, too. Grab some friends and walk around the neighborhoods surrounding your campus, or find neat restaurants and shops. Or, if your school is near a major city, venture downtown to see what they have to offer. I always keep an eye out for cheap theater tickets or free events in Chicago so I never have a boring weekend.
11. Get involved!
You probably heard about this plenty on your school visits, but get involved. Especially at a small school, campus organizations are a great way to spend your free time and get to know your classmates. There's always something going on, whether it's capture the flag or a lecture. Your campus activities board also has tons of great events planned throughout the year, so take advantage! Already, I have gone on retreats, been to a convention, and served in six leadership positions. So whether you're passionate about yoga or social justice, join a group that meets your interests.
College can be full of unexpected twists and turns, but know that there are always people willing to help you out. It's a time to find the best version of yourself and follow your passions. Just do what's best for you, and college will be a breeze.
