It's not called Reality TV for nothing, people.

"The Bachelor(ette)" gets a bad rap, but let's take a moment and recognize the (arguably select) times that the hit ABC show actually shares common struggles with the real dating world.

1. When you strut into the bar thinking you’re hot sh*t, realizing everyone else is hot(ter) sh*t.

Stop self-deprecating and start touting that confidence.

2. When your perfect outfit seems to be everyone else’s perfect outfit, too.

I know it took hours to decide on – and that you left your room a tornado-ridden disaster – but let your personality be what shines, not your little black red dress.

3. When you miss the memo and it’s not actually a costume party.

Don’t worry, even Elle Woods has been fooled a time or two. And apparently this girl.

4. When the person you’re dating doesn’t want to be exclusive.

There’s something so wrong (and red-flaggy) about this, but clearly someone’s not done playing the field. I have two words for that: buh bye.

5. When you’re excited to hang with your man, but then he invites his friends.

Is this even a date?

6. When girls gawk and obsess over any piece of eligible meat.

Ladies: you are worthy. Never settle for less. Breathing should never be enough of a qualification.

7. When you describe last night to your girlfriends the next morning.

The most dramatic ending in history!

8. When you get blatantly overlooked, and he chooses the obvious bioch instead of you.

It’s OK, America knows she’s not marriage material. We all know.

9. When girls want flowers.

Even if it’s just one. Did you hear me, boys? Flowers.

10. When you dress up unnecessarily, just to look cute.

Like why can’t rose ceremonies be sweatpant parties? #redefinesexy

11. When you talk about marriage plans before your first date.

Well, obviously not with him! But to anyone else who will listen (an who won’t tell): your girlfriends, your sisters, the guy next to you on the plane, and the good ol' empty passenger seat.