If you truly want to get to know someone, you must delve much deeper than "favorites" and small talk.
Everyone has a story and if you're committed, that's something you should get to know and understand.
So, when in doubt, here's 100 questions to ask to truly begin to know who someone is on their deepest levels.
- What makes you happy?
- If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go and why?
- What are your top 3 goals in life? How do you plan to achieve them?
- If you had $10,000.00, what would you do with it?
- What is your deepest fear?
- What is your darkest secret?
- What is your all time favorite song?
- What is the motto you live by?
- Who is your biggest role model?
- If you could meet any deceased person for lunch, who would you meet and why?
- Who’s the first person you call when something incredible happens? When something awful happens?
- What is the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you?
- What’s the worst date you’ve ever been on?
- Describe your perfect date.
- Do you prefer to fly or drive? Why?
- What’s your all-time favorite memory?
- Who’s had the biggest influence on you during your lifetime?
- Are you religious? Do you believe in any higher power?
- What gets you out of bed in the morning? What makes you happy to jump out of bed in the morning?
- Are you a morning person or a nighttime person?
- Would you ever compete on a reality show? Which show?
- What is grounds for ending a date immediately?
- Would you ever take back someone who’s cheated?
- Have you ever/would you ever ride a motorcycle?
- What’s something materialistic you could never live without?
- Do you shop at thrift stores?
- What do you want to be remembered for?
- What’s your favorite quote?
- What’s the most awkward situation you’ve ever been in?
- What is your spirit animal?
- What is your most unusual talent?
- What accomplishment are you most proud of?
- Do you volunteer anywhere? Why?
- Do you believe in any conspiracy theories?
- What’s your favorite takeout food?
- Did you enjoy your high school years? Your college years?
- Would you ever/have you ever done karaoke?
- What is something you avoid at all costs?
- What did you want to be when you were young?
- What’s one job you would never do?
- What’s the worst job you’ve ever had?
- What is your dream job?
- If you were lost in the woods, how long do you think you would survive? Why?
- Would you prefer to live in a large city or in the middle of the woods?
- What movie can you practically quote from start to finish?
- If you were a ghost, where would you haunt? Why?
- If you had to relive 10 minutes of your life for the next 48 hours, which 10 minutes would you relive?
- What is your absolute favorite memory?
- If you could master one new skill, what would it be?
- What’s the best thing that’s happened to you in the last month?
- What makes you feel accomplished?
- What is the one thing that people always misunderstand about you?
- Do you have any tattoos? What do they mean to you?
- What was your first job?
- Do you like surprises?
- What is your favorite word?
- Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
- Would you ever take back someone who cheated?
- Do you believe in second chances?
- Do you have any regrets? What’s your biggest regret?
- What’s one controversial topic you’re incredibly passionate about?
- What is something you think everyone should do at least once in their lives?
- What are some personal “rules” you never break?
- If your childhood had a smell, what would it be?
- What are your top 3 priorities in life?
- What are the top 3 things on your bucket list before you die?
- What was the best advice you’ve ever received? Who gave it to you?
- If you could meet any historical figure, who would you choose to meet?
- How many siblings do you have? How close are you to them?
- What is your alcoholic beverage of choice?
- Do you enjoy dancing?
- How many dates must you go on before you lock lips?
- What are some of your insecurities?
- What are some of your pet peeves?
- Do you speak any other languages? Are there any languages you want to learn?
- What 3 qualities do you value most in a person? What 3 qualities do you admire most in a person? Why and why?
- What songs bring back memories for you? What memories and why?
- Where do you get the majority of your news?
- What social media are you on? Why are you on it?
- What enriches your life more than anything?
- What is your definition of “home”?
- When you’re incredibly stressed, what do you do to calm down?
- Have you ever shot a gun?
- How do you feel about the military?
- How close are you with your family?
- Would you ever go on a blind date? Who would you allow to set you up on a blind date?
- Who would you trust with your life?
- If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live? Why?
- What is your definition of “love”?
- Why do you think you are on this earth? What is your purpose in life?
- What was the worst time of your life? The best time?
- Do you want to have kids? Why or why not?
- What seemingly normal thing really upsets you?
- Do you have any phobias?
- Are you a dog person or are you a cat person?
- Do you take long or short showers? Or baths?
- What style do you want to decorate your first apartment/house?
- How do you feel about sex before marriage?
- What quality do you love most about yourself?
- When will you consider yourself “successful” in life? How do you define “success”?