1. Whether or not you love them.

Now I have to be honest- I don't really know what love is. I have a definition of "love" that is all my own, but I'm well aware that my definition of love is not the same as the next people. So, I'm no expert, okay, but what I do know is that love has no room for second guessing. I know that love should be worked at every single day, but it should feel natural and unforced. Love takes time, and you simply cannot rush it. Instead of worrying about whether you love him or not, start enjoying the moment that you are in. Not every relationship is supposed to be "love" and not every person you love you will fall in love with. Focus on the now, and stop ruining the good moments you spend together because you're trying to define love. Love will define itself. You will know when you are in love.

2. What he/she meant when he/she said x, y, and z.

"What do you think he/she meant when he said 'I'll talk to you later'?"

Well they probably meant that they'll talk to you later. Stop overcomplicating every single circumstance and knit picking until the point of exhaustion. You are throwing yourself onto an emotional roller coaster you don't need to be on. Trust that people mean what they say and say what they mean. If their actions and words consistently don't add up, on to the next.

3. If you should text them first, double text them, etc.

This is the simplest of all. If you want to text them, text them. It's that easy. Don't make it a game. Just send the fricking text.

4. Why it didn't work out with your ex.

It just didn't.

Whether you were at different places in your life, whether one of you cheated or lied or what have you- it simply didn't work, and to continue to stay focused on the past will never propel your life forward. We are constantly changing and our perspectives are constantly evolving based on every experience that occurs every single day. There are some people who might be great for you in the moment, but as you both continue to grow, your lives begin to take courses that take you to opposite ends of the earth.

That's okay!

It didn't work out. Accept it and move forward.

5. That friend you lost touch with.

Some people are meant to be in your life for a season, and some people are meant to be a part of your life for a lifetime. When you lose touch with people, that doesn't necessarily mean that they are going to be gone from your life forever, but what it does mean is that wherever you are headed right now in your own journey is somewhere that you need to go without them.

6. If you're going to marry your current boyfriend/girlfriend.

There is no way to ruin a good thing quicker than to have expectations for the future. Spend every moment in the moment. Sure, there are some things that you need to prepare for... saving for a home, a new car, preparing for a family, taking care of your body so you are healthy for years to come, etc. but you should never rob yourself of the happiness in the moment you are currently in simply because you are hyper-focused on the future.

7. If you're going to be single forever.

You won't be if you would like to find love. This is just a dramatic phrase that everyone uses at some point in their life (I'm guilty too). There's this really awesome thing called the Law of Attraction and Manifestation. Give love. Have a positive attitude towards love. You can have anything you want in life if you want it bad enough.

8. Whether or not you're where you should be in life.

Life has no rule book. If you are learning, growing, have goals and aspirations that you are working towards accomplishing, and you are pursuing happiness, you are where you should be in life. Because life is about living, not crossing things off a to-do list.

9. What people are saying behind your back.

As much as everyone can say "I don't care what they think" or that it doesn't bother them, when we find out someone is talking about us, or when we suspect someone is talking about us, it stings a little. Nail-polish-remover-in-a-paper-cut kind of sting. Even the fact that we question if they were or not stings a little. But in all honesty, as cliche as it sounds, when someone talks about you it says more about them than it does about you.

10. Whether or not people are judging your appearance.

They probably are. That's the honest truth. But you need to remember that in regards to your body, the only person who's opinion matters is your own. If you are happy and if you love the way that you look, that confidence will translate into a whole new form of beautiful that can't be replicated.