Everyone has been there. With anxiety quickly arising, you begin to question, "Are they gonna like me? What do I say? What do I do?" while you probably are avoiding eye contact, you still can't help but occasionally steal a glance at them. Whenever you see them nearby you panic a little and find any excuse in the world for them not to notice you. Don't worry, that guy or girl is probably in the same boat as you or they aren't as great as you might think. Here are 10 things that I believe will help you on your charismatic endeavors.
1. Confidence
I know this might sound a little redundant, but it is true. If you exude that you believe in yourself and love yourself, people will be attracted to you. It's like being in a cave full of bears and slathering honey all over yourself; it gets people's attention and makes them want to be near you.
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2. Approaching
When approaching someone, it is always best to go easy. If you notice they are interested in something walk up and ask about it, and while you're at it if they mention anything else ask about that, too! Your first conversation should be 20 percent talking and 80 percent listening.
3. Eye Contact
Eyes are the gateway to the soul. And it is said that if you make eye contact for more than 10 seconds you will create a genuine connection. It is imperative to make eye contact to show this person that you care and want to know more. If you keep looking around they will get freaked out and think they aren't all that interesting and leave! So let your orbs do their job and make that connection!
4. Body Language
Keep an open body position. Which means your arms are free and not crossed. Back is straight, not slouched. And overall your body just looks inviting, not closed off. This will subconsciously make the other person think they shouldn't be near you. So open up a little!
5. Smile
Sometimes we get so focused on the person that our focused face makes it seem like we are thinking something completely different. So smile a little and make them feel at ease.
6. Laugh
Now don't force it, but if you feel a little chuckle coming on then go for it. That will flatter the other person and make them feel really good about what they are saying. You want them to talk as much as possible when you first meet so they feel comfortable around you in the future!
7. Plan to meet up again
Tell them you would like to meet up sometime and talk more about mutual interests or invite them to a party or friendly type gathering. The point is, try and see this person as much as possible.
8. Follow up
We create our own environments and sometimes that means going out of the way to keep creating the conversation with someone to show interest. Do not be afraid to text first whenever you want! Literally that is the stupidest of social "rules" I have ever heard. If you want to text them, just do so! Whenever! Jeez...
9. If they seem uninterested, don't force it
As animals, it is instinct to hunt things, but don't get so caught up in the chase that you are that annoying person going after someone all the time and seem to have no life. You know that guy? Don't be that guy. No one likes that guy.
10. Be yourself
The ultimate golden rule that everyone forgets! If they don't like you for you, then don't pretend to be something you are not because they will eventually see the real you and then things will fall apart. So just be you!
I hope this was helpful, and don't worry your soulmate is out there somewhere. They probably just got hit by a bus and need some time to recover!
