We all have those honest opinions or ideas—you know, the one's you think but should never say out loud? Yeah, those thoughts. Well, I think them a lot, and since I do not often get to say them, I thought, why not list them all at once where everyone can judge me for them! (You know you think them too—you can judge all you want but do not even try to pretend that you do not think them.)
1. "Why?"
This applies to pretty much everything in my life. Why do I have to have to drink water? Could I survive on a mixture between hot chocolate and smoothies? Why do I have to go to class? Could I just get the notes from someone else? Why does the hot summer dive immediately to cold weather? Why is there no middle temperature? Why is it so expensive to travel?
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2. "No, I don't think it's a good idea."
Sometimes I just want to tell people exactly what I think at that moment. Often, this would lead to some bad judgments on my part, though. Sometimes I am wrong. Not often. Sometimes.
3. "That's worse than your original idea."
Seriously. How did your idea get worse? I just...wow.
4. "Please stop talking to me."
I feel like this should be an appropriate thing to say to someone without judgment. Sadly it is not, so I must suffer through more talking when all I wanted to do was listen to music. It's fine. I'm fine.
5. "Can we please leave right now?"
A lot of the time I am thinking about leaving wherever I am. Chances are I do not want to be surrounded by so many people or I feel uncomfortable with these specific people. This comes with having an introverted personality; most of the time I can't help it. In such cases you either need to let me leave or let me observe without interacting. I don't know what to tell you, I sometimes just really need to not be around people.
6. "You need to see a therapist."
This one is actually quite serious. There are times when I wish I could tell people this (because honestly, they should see one—it would really help), but unfortunately I can't. I do not understand why there is such a stigma surrounding seeking treatment for one's mental health. It is exactly the same as seeing any other doctor—it is just that this one is for the brain.
7. "I wish I could help, but I can't."
I have a really hard time saying "no." A really hard time. There are certain people that I cannot even imagine saying "no" to. Which is extremely problematic when I cannot afford to help them at that moment. Yet I help them anyway, because...well, they are my friend and they asked so nicely. How can I say no?
8. "No."
This goes hand-in-hand with the previous point, but I think it deserves its own number nonetheless. It also needs to be emphasized in my own mind. "No" is such an important word, yet so many people do not know how to use it properly. I suppose though, that is something that comes with age, and the mistakes that can only come of living life.
9. "I'm sorry."
I do not try to be a proud person, but these three words are not ones that come easily to me. It is not so much that I am afraid to be wrong (even though I am) it is that...I do not want to have to admit that I might have hurt someone through my carelessness. So, for all the times I messed up, I am sorry.
10. "I love you."
I am trying to get better about using this one. For a really long time I could only say this to my parents, but (thanks to life beating me up a few times) I learned exactly how important it is to tell the people you love that you do love them—even if it is not necessarily using those words. So whether it is "I love you," "sweet dreams," "I miss you," or, "text me when you get there," just because one of those is hard to say does not mean the others matter any less.
