Being single over the past two years hasn't been the easiest pill to swallow at times, there's always someone asking about your love life and why someone like you is single. But what I've learned from being single at twenty will follow me forever
1. Being picky isn't a bad thing, and neither is having high standards.
Yes, it's not a bad thing! If you accept everything and everyone that walks into your life you'll end up twice as confused and twice as heartbroken in the end.
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2. Multiple rendezvous doesn't equate to monogamy
Sure, you've spent many nights at his place, maybe even got into super deep, stellar conversations. Maybe he's gone somewhere in public with you a few times, almost date worth places. That doesn't mean you're on your way to a monogamous relationship, so don't be surprised if you find out he's been spending time with someone you know while you're not around.
3. Time of day doesn't make a difference.
Just because a guy texts you during the day instead of after midnight doesn't mean he's thinking of something different or considering making you his girlfriend. It just means one of two things, he's free and so he take the opportunity, or you've become such a frequent hookup he knows he can call for you whenever he wants.
4. Your ex shouldn't be tossed way.
Unless of course they cheated on you, than toss them away. But, if they break up was clean and mutual, don't throw them away! They were a big portion of your life and you may not be a couple anymore, but there is nothing wrong with being platonic with your ex, if you can keep it that way.
5. Everyone can be cynical.
I know no one wants to admit it, but you're going to have a period when you're a somewhat bitter and cynical. You might judge the couple that walk by while you're walking down the street and let out a noise of disgust when you see a pair kissing on a stairwell before they part ways.
6. Working on yourself is a constant in life.
Everyone says you should work on yourself when you're single, and although I was resistant, it happened anyway. theres nothing wrong with working on yourself but if you want to or not, you're going to, self improvement is never a bad thing.
7. Don't let your friends try to push you into dating if you don't want it.
They have hearts of gold and want you to be happy, and if they know a good match for you of course they'll try to make it happen. This isn't always a good thing. You might be invested in some real personal feng shui and that's okay.
8. Your personality needs to be strong.
And I don't mean blunt and outrageous, I mean strong enough that it doesn't change when you're single. No one wants to be the friend who has the personality of a wet mop when they're single because it's based on who they are dating. Create yourself based on your morals and beliefs, sure you're going to pick up traits from your relationships but your personality shouldn't be composed of it.
9. Being a "comfort zone" shouldn't be your M.O. (method of operation).
You talk to a lot of guys and hit it off real well. You laugh and giggle and think things might spark between you two, until he unloads all of his love life issues and you realize you just make him feel comfortable and safe. That's fine if you want to be friend-zoned by guys who just ask if your friend is single or use you just for a confidence boost. Otherwise, stop it before it starts.
10. Good things come to those who wait.
Jumping from one relationship to the next is almost certain to hurt you in the end, so don't rush it. The person you're meant to have next will come in due time and you'll be thankful for the time it took, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't have fun until than!
