I had the wonderful opportunity to study abroad in the Czech Republic. My program was catered specifically to theatre majors (like me). This meant that I had the chance to see a part of the world with some of my best friends.
And my ex-boyfriend.
We were together when I had planned on going on the trip, then three weeks before our flight, we broke up. I was incredibly nervous about being forced to spend two and a half weeks with someone, I didn’t want to be around at all. However, being forced to spend time with my ex-boyfriend taught me how to cope with the break-up better than staying in the U.S would have. Here’s how to cope with studying abroad with an ex (or how to deal with being forced to be around an ex).
1. The relationship needed to end.
Yes. It did. Both of us were unhappy for a long time. We were in the relationship because it was safe. That's not what a relationship should be. I commend him for having the courage to end it (because I clearly did not).
2. Closure is real.
I had always thought that closure was a made-up concept that was an excuse for people to sleep with their exes. It’s not. I learned in Český Krumlov that it absolutely is real. There are some questions that only your ex can answer.
3. Disconnect from technology when you go abroad.
It was the greatest choice I could have possibly made. I got to experience three beautiful cities. Don’t be the guy that's plugged in during the entire abroad experience.
4. Be kind to him.
Or else no one else will be.
5. Spend time away from him.
He isn’t the reason you went on this trip. You are allowed to have fun without him. Staying away from him will keep your mind off of the breakup.
6. Spend time with him.
He’s a fun guy. If you were friends before, there's no reason why you can’t spend time together abroad.
7. Some people move on faster than others.
He might move on faster. It sucks in the moment, but breathe, and you’ll get through it.
8. THE GRACE PERIOD IS IMPORTANT.
This means don’t post pictures of you and people you are dating (or something ...) on ANY sort of social media. Your ex will see it, and they will feel like crap. Give the same respect you expect and deserve.
9. He’s still a nice guy.
He was a nice guy before you dated. He will be a nice guy after.
10. Being single is better than being in an unhappy (or boring or anything less than sublime) relationship.
It is not worth your time and energy.
Sometimes being alone is better. There is an entire world out there for you to explore. Go see it.
