When I was younger I would often time see couples in high school. I would wonder how they were able to date so long without any issues.
But, as I grew up and got into a relationship on my own, I realized it was not that hard. Yes, relationships are hard but a teenage relationship isn't much different from an adult relationship. That is what most of us fail to realize. Personally, I have been dating my boyfriend since the age of 15 and I am almost 19. Because of my age, I receive a lot of backlash and weird comments. Here are 10 things that I hear most often.
1. "OMG you guys are still dating?
Yes, we are still dating. Just because I am a teenager does not mean I cannot have a long-term relationship.
2. "But you're so young, go have fun!"
Who says that my boyfriend and I don't have fun? We have fun together and we have fun with our other friends. Having fun is just easier when you're in a long-term relationship, I get make a fool out of myself with someone I love!
3. "Do you guys ever disagree"?
Do you and your husband disagree? Just because we're young doesn't mean that we don't have issues. We disagree on things same as anyone else would.
4. "When is the wedding?"
Who said anything about a wedding? Some people wait 30 years to get married, some people wait 2 weeks to get married! But just as a heads up the more you ask the less likely you'll be invited if it happens one day. We have to grow into ourselves then maybe we can talk about a wedding!
5. "Do you run out of things to talk about?"
No, not really. We have our own separate lives! We talk just like any other couple, we have really weird conversations and serious conversations.
6. "Why are you tying yourself down? There are so many people you can be meeting."
Yes, there are so many new people I can be meeting, and I am meeting them! I have met many new people and made new friends. I'm just not looking for a new boyfriend!
7. "Don't you miss flirting?"
Does flirting stop when you start dating? No, just like you don't stop dating once you're married.
8. "Do you constantly check your phone?"
Not at all. If he calls I will pick up, and if I don't I'll call back once I see his call.
9. "Are your parents OK with you still dating?"
I mean clearly! If they were OK with us in the beginning what could have changed?
10. "Does he get along with your family?"
His family is my family. The sad truth is that we've been dating so long that even if we broke up he'd probably still show up to all of our family functions.
I know these things may sound crazy but they are very true! You'll only understand if you're in a long-term relationship at a young age.The truth of the matter is that even though we are young and in a relationship, we are still normal. We go out, hang out, and even argue just like everyone else. The more that you make negative comments and assumptions about my relationship the less likely you are to be in our future.
We're happy, so be happy for us.