It seems like when it comes to personalities, you are placed in either one category - extrovert or introvert. The hardest part about this, at least for me, is fitting into both categories. As much as I love being the life of the party and being surrounded by people, I also take pride in being alone without people bothering me.
There have been a few times when I have been at a party, ping pong ball in hand and the thought of how I would much rather be at home creeps in my mind, and then all I want to do is go home to my bed. Trying my best to look like I'm enjoying myself so people don't start asking questions, because I really don't feel like talking about that. I just want to be by myself, sometimes I enjoy the thoughts that I have alone without the interruption of other people talking invading my thoughts.
But then there are moments when I get mad at people because they aren't coming out to so and so's party, and then find a way to convince them to come out and have a good time. Being surrounded by large groups of people makes me happy, but they also bother me at moments too. If what I just described about my life sounds like you, then you and I are very much alike. We are the "extroverted introverts."
1. You Really Enjoy Listening To What People Have To Say
You enjoy learning the small details about people. It's like watching a movie, but not only that, you know how it feels when you think people aren't listening to what you have to say. So you listen intently to what that person who is venting to you has to say because you know that is a relief for them because in this moment they feel as though there is at least one person who cares. Plus, an added bonus is you feel important that someone would let you into their life enough to know their most intimate and personal problems.
2. You Stick to a Select Group of People
As much as you love to meet new people and engage in conversation, you still stick to your select few friends. Those are your people. The ones you feel comfortable with, no drama, no hassle. Conversations are never hard with these people, it never feels forced. You love social gatherings, but that does not mean you want to be social with everyone. These select people are the lucky ones because you love interacting with them.
3. Just Because You Want Time Alone, Does Not Mean You Want it to Stay that Way
You take pride in spending quality time with yourself. Because everyone needs to make time for yourself and you never forget to have that. Sometimes your friends don't understand your reason for wanting to be alone. But that does not mean you want to be lonely. You love being in the presence of you friends. The love you have for them and that they have for you is very comforting for you.
4. You Make Friends Easily, But You Don't Stay Friends as Easily
As soon as you walk in a room, you are able to make friends with almost everyone. But those friendships you make don't typically last, because you have a hard time staying in contact with those people. After said social gathering you don't feel like texting people you just met. You have a hard time texting as it is. But also because you don't feel like going out again to have to interact with people on the same level.
5. If You Are Not Comfortable, You Just don't Speak
It isn't that you are trying to be rude, but when you're in a situation with people you aren't used to being around or are just not comfortable with, you just don't speak, which may cause some anxiety for you. But because of this it will most likely resort to you switching between the same three apps on your phone until the situation is over or the people are so uncomfortable that they leave.
6. You Absolutely Despise Small Talk, Though You Do Enjoy Talking to Strangers
You love talking to strangers, but it's awkward to talk about the weather, or how your day was going, you are not about it. You enjoy conversation that keeps your mind stimulated. You hear strangers talking about how they believe there is life on other planets, you are all for talking to them. Though you hate small talk you still do it, only for the sliver of hope that maybe that person you are talking to will open up a bit more about themselves.
7. You Like Conversations That Have Substance
As mentioned before with your hatred of small talk, you hate conversations that feel like that have no solid base. If the conversation is engaging, you love it because you get to learn about an individual and their outlook on life. But you will soon take a ride on the train of awkward when the conversation isn't interesting. You love when people are deep, like that stuff makes you so happy and you may not even know why.
8. You Are Always Deep in Thought
You regularly have people snapping their fingers in your face, or asking you if you were listening. You get so lost in your own thoughts, sometimes it's insane. You dive so deep into you own thoughts, simply because you heard someone mention something that reminded you of that one thing you have to do or you just are planning something great in your mind that you intend to use for a later moment. Or you just replay past events in your mind over and over again.
9. Sometimes You really do not want to go out, but Your Friends try Their Hardest to get You up and about
What if you wear the perfect outfit or get a haircut, and it isn't fun. You have a lot of other things you could have been doing if it isn't fun, like watching Netflix (which is my favorite excuse for not going out... "can't go out, I have to finish this series, sorry"). For every night that you want to go out and be a social butterfly, there are the same amount of nights you want to stay in and cuddle up in some blankets and be alone.
10. You want to Talk to a Bunch of People, but There Are Days You Don't Want to See a Single Soul
Some days you are really good at texting, answering in less than a second. You want to make plans with about every person you know. Make plans to go to the movies or have a party. But then you have days that you don't want to make contact with human life. There are no ways of knowing when you are going to be in that kind of mood. You just kind of wake up and the mood is set for the day. You are either a social butterfly or a hermit - there is no in between.
