Okay, so now that I have your attention I hate to break it to you, but the above statement is completely inaccurate. What a shocker right? I hate those articles that give you 10 easy steps on doing something that should take your whole life. Here let me give you 10 completely obscure things you must do in order to get mindblowingly rich and I can't promise you will be rich all I can say is that you must follow each step and hopefully maybe something will come out of it. If not, then it's not the list that is wrong but you must be doing something wrong. You're the problem. So let's look at that statement I began with: 10 steps to becoming a better person. How in the world do you sum up all the things you can do in your lifetime into 10 of the most important ones and say yup follow these and I promise that you will become a better person. I'm not saying it's something that is supposed to be hard, but it's something you have to work at everyday. It's not like checking off a list in a recipe and saying oh I already did steps 1-5 and now all I have to do is bake the cake and enjoy. Let's break it down.
Becoming a "better" person can look different to everyone because different people value different traits. Some people say the most important thing in a friendship is honesty, and I have heard others say nope I just want someone that knows how to have a fun time and can laugh at anything. But the thing is that to one person you might come across as a great person because they value the traits that you already have but to the person next to them you might not come across as the best person because they value traits you struggle in developing. This is the problem when we focus on how others see our image. You know yourself better than anyone around you. You know you struggle with being nice or you struggle in being honest. The image of "a better" person cannot be objective. That is where I think a lot of us mess up. We believe that being a better person is having 10 of the best characteristics and if you lack in an area then I'm sorry but you have come short.
What constitutes being a "better" person is subjective which is why it cannot be summed up into 10 steps. I'm sorry if you opened up this post and thought you were going to get straight up answers that would solve the present issue you're facing. Trust me, I wish I had those answers so that I can use them as well. But here's the thing, the beauty about not having 10 specific steps is that you learn that there is a combination of hundreds of steps that lead you to becoming a better person. I think the only simple answer I could give you to sum up the hundreds of steps you could take to become a better person would be to become what you want others to be and to treat others how you would like to be treated. This is the journey I am currently on, where everyday I make mistakes and come short, but where everyday I learn to ask for forgiveness and get closer to becoming that better person I know I can be.
