There's no surefire way to move on from something, whether that's a breakup, a place, a time in your life gone past, or something traumatic that happened to you. Everyone copes differently and everyone's pace varies. There's no secret formula, magical potion, or mantra that will magically make you "over it." I wish there were, because a lot of people would probably be happier from day to day.
Since that's not the case, here are a few ways to cope, rejuvenate, and to remember that you're going to make it through no matter how much it hurts. Even if you only feel better for a moment, it's a step forward, right?
1. Take a bath with candles, bath bombs, and the works.
2. Write it out. In a journal entry, a poem, an angry letter. Anything to help your mind feel less heavy.
3. Music, whether it's pump up dance music or sad songs. I'm convinced music has healing powers.
4. Cry. Pretty self-explanatory. Pushing down feelings only puts off what will inevitably come, so feel whatever you feel at the time.
5. Retail therapy. Just remember to set a limit for yourself.
6. Talk about it with whomever you feel comfortable. Sometimes even just texting a friend to vent can feel like a big weight off your shoulders.
7. Do what makes you happy. Whatever hobbies or passions you have, delve into them. You'll be so caught up in them, you'll forget for awhile.
8. Get out of your house. If you can get out of town or the country for a bit, by all means, go. Even just getting out of your house and spending time doing things with friends or family can be a huge comfort.
9. Realize you'll have setbacks. This isn't a linear process. It gets messy and confusing at times.
10. Understand. Understand yourself, your circumstances, and that you won't be better overnight.
It may feel like this is something you'll never get over, but as time passes, you'll slowly start to notice little differences. They will be small, but small victories are what lead to battles being won. You'll win the war, you just have to get through the fight first.
