My boyfriend and I have been together since we were 13, so naturally when he was deciding colleges last September and he brought up the University of Northwestern Ohio my mind ran a million miles an hour. How will we handle this? After almost 5 years how can we take the distance? What will happen? What if he finds someone else? What if we can't do it?
Now we are 638.6 miles away and 10 hours apart. We've been doing it since August, and we are doing well. It was really hard at first, especially when I found out that one of his breaks falls wass just a week after our six year anniversary, meaning he will miss it. Since he moved into his dorm in August he has come home twice. I'm not going to lie, it's been incredibly hard and it has definitely taken a lot of getting used to. We usually saw each other every day, and then every weekend while I was at school, so seeing each other roughly once a month has been difficult.
Whether your boyfriend/girlfriend is leaving for few days, weeks, months or even years it's going to be hard and different for every couple but, I promise it's doable.
I have realized that there are some key reasons why long distance relationships can work.
1. It's the age of communication.
It's almost impossible not to stay in touch with your significant other no matter how far away they might be. With texting, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Facetime, it can sometimes make the distance feel more like 10 miles. Plus, there are tons of apps out there that are specifically designed for long distance couples. My personal favorite is the Without app. It is very simple and easy to use and a great way to just get a quick reminder to your love that you're thinking of them.
2. Love knows no distance.
Insert cliche quote about love conquering all. Seriously, though it's so true. If you are really truly in love, it makes it difficult but it also makes it so much easier if that makes sense.
3. Everyone needs to find themselves.
This is more focused on each of you as individuals rather than as a couple. I have been with my boyfriend for almost six years, so this time that we've spent apart has been very different but beneficial. I've had time to focus more on myself and my friendships.
4. It only makes your relationship stronger.
Provided that you have a strong foundation first. The distance just shows how much your relationship can handle.
5. Who doesn't love cute packages/letters?
I mean seriously, getting a letter in the mail is exciting no matter who it is from, unless it's bills, but getting one from your person is the absolute best. Also, putting together cute care packages for your significant other is almost better than receiving them.
6. It makes seeing them special.
Of course, anytime you see your boyfriend/girlfriend is special but when you haven't seen them for days, weeks, or even months it is just that much better.
7. You appreciate each other more.
When they first leave you will realize how much you've depended on them. From the little things they do for you like fixing the sheets in the morning or always deciding what to watch on Netflix because you just can't make a decision, to the big things like always knowing when you're in need of a pick me up just by your face or fixing your car (my boyfriend goes to school for Auto Tech and I have terrible luck with cars).
8. It displays your trust for one another.
Trust is one of the most important attributes of any relationship, and especially romantic relationships. The distance will not work without trust in not only them but also in yourself.
9. They're your best friend.
If your boyfriend/girlfriend is not one of your best friends then what are you doing? They've made you laugh and cry and they're always there for you. What's a couple of state lines when you have someone so close to the heart?
10. You love them.
It all comes down to that one four letter word; love. In the end, that's all that matters, who you love and who loves you. The miles and hours away are so minuscule when you have, not just some to love but. someone who loves you.