If this is not work out for you so don't waste your precious time with her or him.
1- Do things together and make it fun.
I do not care what people say about male work or female work. According to my opinion, there is no female job or male job to do. Example; I am very organized person. I do clean the house, wash the dishes, vacuum once a week, laundry, feed the cats, scoop litter two times a day, cook sometimes, etc... Same thing with woman if she enjoy watching soccer game or enjoy fixing the car, etc... You can enjoy the things when you do together. All important thing is support each other. If not, what you are doing with your lover?
2- Communicate more often than watch your phone or TV.
Who is doing this, honestly? I was born in 1983. I grew up without a cellphone or computer. As a child I still remember friends I wrote letters. I got my first computer in 1995. but now, communication has changed after year the millennium, people who have live in technology devices and have lost face-to-face talk. So think about it, If you are more happy with devices than your relationship, what you are doing with your lover?
3- Join to her/his world and see if you can enjoy.
Don't just watch from far away. Door is open, why don't you come in and see it? This is important that if both side enjoy each other with their world. If not, what you are doing with your lover?
4- If you don't trust your girl or man, your relationship will be always wavy.
Never start relationship without trust. I do not believe that people trust each other in long term. This is not about time. It's all about personality. If you don't trust at first, you will always feel uncomfortable. If you trust but make you disappointed so you know what you need to do. If you are having an unfair relationship, what you are doing with your lover?
5- Give her/him freedom.
The person who you love, it is not like a bird that you open the cage and make him/her escaped somehow. Are you afraid that someone will steal her/his heart from you or you are the one, don't trust her/him at all? If you trust, you don't need to think anything at all. If not, what you are doing with your lover?
6- If you are feeling happy when she/he is near you without any conversation.
Sometimes people talk to each other with their eyes without say nothing and feel happy, just because of you are to be with him or her. Never happen to you before? Well, If not, what you are doing with your lover?
7- No judgment. All colors are beautiful on this earth.
Don't forget that every person have their own world. Basically all people are alone on this earth and other people (friends, family, wife, bf/gf etc..) are just our partners who join to our world and joy. If you do judge, what you are doing with your lover?
8- Discussion is normal but not if it becomes a fight.
That is how respect each other and listen. If not, what you are doing with your lover?
9- Less expectation equal with less sadness.
If you are in love with someone or be in a relationship, don't give me any reason that why do you love him/her. Love is not something that gives full of benefits! If you do, what you are doing with your lover?
10- If you can be her/his friend and lover.
If not, what you are doing with your lover?
Friday, April 27, 2018
