Hello there! These are just some qualities and characteristics I look for in a guy/future husband. Woot woot.
- Godly. No, not just a guy who claims to be a Christian, but knows that following Christ is a lifestyle that is only maintained by daily seeking the Lord and does so accordingly
- Spiritual Leader. A spiritual leader will point you to the security you have in Christ. He will encourage you to stay grounded in your faith and he will take charge in a family later on in a Biblical way. He will honor his family by being a good leader.
- Assertive. What I love is a guy that can really get stuff done. A guy that is not afraid to take action, even in uncomfortable situations. An assertive guy is confident in himself and is decisive in choice making.
- Genuine Kindness. It is so amazing to see a guy be conscious and caring about the people around him. Whether it is just being nice to a waiter/waitress or volunteering to help people who need it, it shows a golden heart (and shows that he would be a nice dad!).
- Flexible. I want a guy that can do the splits at the drop of a hat...just kidding. By flexible, I mean that in times of hardship and adversity, this guy will take what he has and turn it around.
- Funny. I know this is probably the top attribute everyone wants in a significant other/spouse, but humor is important! I would like a guy that is able to laugh at himself in a lighthearted way and that makes jokes- puns are a plus.
- Thoughtful. This isn’t just a guy that is good with coming up with cool plans, that isn't exactly what I am talking about. I’m talking about a guy that I can have intellectual conversations with and cares about knowing more about the world. I admire a guy that wants to learn.
- Selflessness. I feel like everyone struggles with this. I don’t need a guy who is perfect, but I would love one that strives to be more like Christ. A guy who is selfless or is really working toward it is something I am praying for.
- Values Family. Family is so important to me. My family had to stick together when we moved to Asia to join the mission field and I wouldn’t trade our close ties for anything. A guy that values family will realize how important it is to raise kids in the right way and to put family in high priority.
- Hates Evil. A godly man will want to turn away from what is wrong, disgusting, and sinful. He will try to pursue the opposite, what is good and pure.
I’d just like to say that I know no one is perfect, and I don’t want them to be. What I really want more than anything is a guy that will put God before me and that I can work alongside to further his kingdom. The things I look for in a dating relationship are the same things I would look for in a husband because the ultimate purpose of dating (to me at least) is to find the one that I want to spend my life with. I am working on a lot of this in myself also. I want to be more godly, selfless, and kind. I am far from perfect but I know there is someone out there that will become someone I can lean on and trust, and our imperfections, put together, will make something perfect.
