I’m bisexual.

Everyone has a different reaction when they hear me say those words and it’s actually pretty funny how uncomfortable most people get and what assumptions they make.

Here’s a list of 10 assumptions made about people who identify as bisexual:

1. It’s just a phase

No, actually. Our sexuality isn’t just a phase, it’s who we are.

2. We’re cheaters

Just because we’re attracted to men and women, doesn’t mean that we like to cheat. Does that mean that all straight people are loyal and less likely to cheat? I absolutely do not think so.

3. If you’re bisexual then you’re just gay

Is it that difficult to believe that we just simply like real connections and we aren’t picky about gender? If we were gay, we would identify as such.

4. Being bisexual isn’t a real thing

That’s funny because I look at women and men every day of my life and I think they’re both beautiful and I know many people who feel the same exact way that I do. Being bisexual is real. We exist, I promise. There happens to be a lot of us.

5. We’re just undecided

Maybe some of us do change our minds and realize we’re attracted to one gender, it happens. We all change. But, if we’re telling you we’re bisexual, it’s because we genuinely are attracted to both men and women. We’re not making this stuff up, people.

6. We’re slutty

Just because we have more opportunities doesn’t mean we take them.

7. We identify as bisexual to get attention

If that were the case, do you actually think we would want all of this negative feedback that we get?

8. We don’t believe in monogamy

I think that’s just this generation, not us individually.

9. We’re attracted to everyone we see

Nope. We still have standards as well as likes and dislikes just like everyone else. In our case, we just don’t care what sex you are.

10. Bisexuality = Threesomes

My sexuality doesn’t just come with this random perk nor want of having threesomes. I’ll pass.

Being bisexual is something I’m extremely proud of because it’s who I am and it’s sad that it’s something that’s really hard for people to accept even in this day and age. Why don’t you stop worrying about who I’m attracted to and start worrying about why it even bothers you so much? Why do you care? We are real people and we’re here.