As a skeptic of sororities, I was the last person to think that having a big or a little would have any sort of impact on my life - but Zeta Tau Alpha at the University of Florida has two people that changed my life forever.
When I was a freshman, my big took me under her wing and introduced me to the crazy world of college. She picked me up when I was down, helped me find my way when I was lost on campus and showed me the ropes on how to make the best social costumes. My big made my first year a year full of memories and fun, but when it was time for me to get a little I had no clue how I would do the same. I had some big shoes to fill. (No pun intended.)
When it was time for me to meet the new member class and find my own little, I was scared that I wouldn't find someone that I would click with like I did with my big. I didn't think I had any sort of wisdom or know-how to help a little with things - I was still learning for myself. The last thing I wanted was to be a big and my biggest fear was getting someone that I wouldn't be able to connect with.
I could not have been more wrong about the situation. When I had my little run into my arms on big-little reveal, I had no idea how much more she would teach and help me than I would her. It's not about what I can give her or help her with, but it's about helping each other through the good and bad. I was so busy in thinking of what I could or couldn't do for a little, but I ended up finding a best friend - not someone that I had an obligation to.Â
Since meeting my little, I have learned more than I could have ever taught her. Some of it has been learning about myself through helping her, and some of it has been her helping me through things and teaching me new ways of handling situations.She truly has become a sister to me. A friend that is there to give and ask for advice, someone who identifies and validates my strengths and helps me with my weaknesses but most importantly, she is someone who is always there for me.Â
The best type of person to have in your life is one who brings out the best in you. The saying you become like those you hang around could not be more true, and I would not choose anyone else to take my little or my big's place. These friendships, along with others that I've made in Zeta, have made the biggest impact on my life.Â
Getting your big or your little is gaining a lifelong friend, confidant, encourager and listener. As corny or stereotypical as it may sound, you truly are gaining a sister.