10 Reasons You Still Don't Have a Boyfriend

Pasha Borovikov
Sigma Phi Epsilon

Expectations are way too high.

Your expectations are way too high. I’m sorry Mr. Perfect hasn’t found you, maybe he’s just not that into you. Being a little optimistic, we could agree on a simple matter that if destiny exists, then your love could be right around the corner. So for the next guy that approaches you, don’t automatically decide that he’s not the right one. Give it a second and talk to him, flirt, dance whatever you want, but just give it at least a maybe.

Your party record

If you are just out there because the single life is fun, god bless you. You could party, hook up, and then do it all again tomorrow night. Who needs to find their true love if being single is just as good as anything.  As good as it sounds, it doesn’t always come off like that. You might be like this now, but then one day no one is going to look at you as the girlfriend type.

Reputation

Think twice about your reputation. Yea I seriously can’t stress that enough. If you get with half of my house am I supposed to date you while living in it? Your rep is something that we all think about . Keep it clean, or cover up your tracks. JK, but don’t be known for anything bad--guilty or not--it’s still a thought that will cross my mind while talking to you.  By the way this goes for everyone.

 Assuming

Don’t assume we’re all the same. Every guy has a different stance on relationships, and that’s because our views and values are built on unique experiences that led us to see the world the way we do.

Comparing old and new

If you think you found the right one, don’t compare him to the guy in your last relationship. Expect him to be a breath of fresh air. Get to know him; don’t assume that you already do. He might not be star quality like your ex, but he will be your ex’s stuntman and do everything your ex was afraid to.

No confidence

You got to believe me when I say you’re good enough. Women consider men with low confidence to be unattractive; men feel the same way about you. If you don’t think you’re beautiful, then you don’t know how to read a mirror. Believe that you’re the best a guy could have, and trust me he will believe you too.

Forget  about your type

Take a break from falling for your usual type.  I’m not saying that there’s something wrong with your type, but by even having a type you’re subconsciously stopping yourself from meeting someone that could be right for you. At a social scene, don’t narrow down your search based on your stereotypical view of his appearance. You don’t know how the next guy who makes you happy will look like, so make it easier for him to find you.

Stop looking

If you’re telling yourself that you should give up the search for right guy, you’re right. You don’t find anyone when you’re looking to be in a relationship, you just accept anyone that’s most suitable at the moment. Being single with no strings attached creates an incentive to change that.

Play better.

Don’t be a guy’s number, be his mile stone. Giving a challenge will make you stand out like a trophy to anyone. It’s called game for a reason, therefore get better at it. In the most plain form, learn that push means pull when it comes down to law of attraction. Deny everyone and look into someone who comes back for round 2.

It’s up to you.

You’re single because you want to be.

Pasha is a freshman in the USP.  You may contact him at pborovikov@yahoo.com.