Dear Shatty

Will Shatlock
Phi Kappa Tau

Dear Shatty,

I am in a long distance relationship and things are going really well. My boyfriend is very supportive and makes the distance totally worth it. However, I’ve been trying to branch out and be more social lately, so I started going out with my friends occasionally. I always have a lot of fun when my friends and I go out, with the exception of when drunk and/or aggressive boys try to interfere with our ladies night.

This past weekend, I found myself between a rock and a hard place (or in this case- a frat boy and a 55” flat screen). I was at a party with my right-hand girl having the best of times when a wild frat boy appeared. He cornered me and delivered a well-rehearsed yet very slurred monologue, alerting all of the house guests that I was a “good kid” and that he “liked my swag.” I appreciate the compliments, but I could do without the aggression and tequila breath. I really do enjoy getting out of the house from time to time, but I can’t figure out a way around these type of encounters. Please help me, Shatty.

Sincerely,

Good Kid

Dear Good Kid,

That's funny you say this, not too long ago I had a friend experience a pretty similar encounter with a person like this. The first bit of advice I can give you is, don't stop going out and having fun just because of this one time. There are plenty of people out there who just want to have the same type of night you want to have. Unfortunately, though, you're going to run into these kind of guys every now and then. Sometimes, these "frat boy" type of kids are reckless and don't know what's going on until someone steps in.

You mentioned you were with one of your friends, which is good and that probably helped send the message to him a little bit more clearly. Also, be up front to these types of guys considering the relationship you're in. Don't be afraid to get a little aggressive with the guy. Trust me, I think if he hadn't gotten the picture yet, he will as soon as you slap him across the face. If you're not into the whole fight club idea, then another good way is to make yourself not attractive to that guy. What I'm trying to get at is be annoying. No matter what state of mind a guy may be in, there's nothing worse than a girl who is blatantly annoying or disinterested all together. Another thing, make sure you know where you're going. If you're only going to know one person there, you may want to consider heading a different way. Not only is it incredibly sketchy sometimes, but you will prob increase your chances of running into these types of bros along the way. Remember though, long distance relationships are hard, and they obviously require a lot of work and dedication. To me, it sounds like you are on the right path your boyfriend, you just may need to be a little more aware of your surroundings at some points.

Sincerely,

Shatty