I have learned a lot from my encounters with girls that love to gossip. Sure, we have all dealt with it in high school, but what they don't tell you is that it doesn't magically go away once you graduate. I thought it would be different in college, that everyone would grow up and play nice. While that's true for many girls, there are still those out there who are just downright mean girls. Gossips.
I met a pair of girls who seemed like nice people. They were smiley, bubbly, energetic girls. However, the more I got to know them, the more I began to feel a little uneasy about them. It wasn't anything in particular at first -- just something I could not explain. Then I started noticing little signs here and there. Neglecting to listen to my gut instinct, I continued entertaining some sort of a friendship with them. This only resulted in irritating, petty, childish drama. And lots of it.
The first red flag you should notice, or at least the first one I noticed, when getting to know other girls is whether or not they gossip about other people. This was one of the things I noticed about the two girls in my situation, and I ignored it. Don't ignore it. It will just create drama for you later on. If a girl is running her mouth about everyone else, I guarantee you she runs her mouth about you as well. So it's best you don't give her anything to say. These girls will leech on to anything you say and turn it into something it's not.
Also, If you have been friends with someone for a short period of time and have already caught them in a major lie or two, that's most likely another sign you should get out. This was my second red flag; girls who are no good at hiding the fact that they are fake. Yeah, avoid those girls. The girls in my situation would talk about a mutual friend of ours pretty harshly, but when she came around, they would act like her best friend. They were the type of girls who only asked her to hang out if they needed something.
In this day and age, it seems as if it is hard to find genuine friends, especially as a female. Too many people only want to be your friend for a story to tell instead of true bonds and friendships filled with loyalty. Girls, be nice. Life would be much more pleasant if we stood by each other and had each other's backs. But sometimes, there is just no changing the way of things. All you can do is keep an eye out for the good ones and surround yourself with the right people. And sometimes, life throws you into the mix of things with these mean girls, whether it's at work or school. I've realized that you don't haveto be great friends with every one you meet.
What I've learned is, while it's nice to meet new people and make new friends, it's more about the quality of the people you surround yourself with than it is the quantity.