I am not the most enthusiastic person on earth. I do not wake up every morning and thank the sun for shinning, wave at the flowers that I pass bye, and tell every single person that they are beautiful in every single way.
Usually, I walk to class with a stride that screams "I'm on a mission, gosh dangit, and I need to be somewhere", have headphones in my ears playing Drake's 'Jumpman' single, and hold my backpack like I am climbing the top of Mount Everest.
With every push and stride, I finally end up looking at my reflection in the windows and fine my absolutely welcoming face staring right back at me.
My "Resting B**ch face".
However, I feel like this term has evolved the wrong way for the past couple of trend seasons.
First of all, why is it called an RBF? I can't speak for others, but I don't think I'm a mean person. Now, I don't have a smile on my face 24/7, but I don't call people names, think bad thoughts, or curse people as they walk by me just for the heck of it. So, why is it considered a b**ch face?
Yes, I can understand that because my face is not as welcoming as other girls, but why is my face automatically categorized with a stereotype even before you know me. Did you ever think that my face is simply, my face?
I don't need to smile ALL THE TIME.
Just because I don't smile when I see a bird fly, the sun shine, a butterfly in the wind or a baby cry, does not make me a mean person. Perhaps, my face is just naturally serious.
Why are women categorized if they don't constantly smile? Why aren't men categorized the same way?
If a man has a serious resting face, he is seen as a Thinker, a wise man. If a man has a smiling resting face, he is seen as kind, compassionate and great with kids.
Not the same ball park for girls. Because you are not smiling, you must be a stuck-up brat, who didn't get her way and is now upset. Almost as if, every girl should have a smiling face because that's just what girls do.
Except, there is this one thing called, reality.
I don't like smiling at every single that passes me. I will not tell everyone they are beautiful. I will not smell every flower that comes my way. I will not smile when I don't feel like it.
Frankly, no girl should feel obligated to smile if they don't want to. I don't have a RBF because I know who I am. I am not a b**ch just because I don't want to smile. I am not mean just because I don't smile every time I pass a person on the street.
If I am looking forward, looking down, or totally lost in my own thoughts, don't automatically categorize any woman based off her eagerness to smile.
Some of us are just serious people and somethings are none of your business.